Friday, 26 July 2013
Out in the fields of God by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Elizabeth Barrett Browning is one of my favorite poets. In fact, she is one of my favorite people. In preparation for my life’s work as a writer, I naturally studied tons and tons of literature and history, and Elizabeth — along with her husband Robert — have always stood out to me like beacons in a usually dark and unloving world. This poem is one that I have always identified with very closely, and I hope, as I post it here on my page, that it allows you, my readers to ‘connect’ with it as well and draw comfort and hope that it offers into your own lives.
OUT IN THE FIELDS WITH GOD
The little cares that fretted me, I lost them yesterday
Among the fields above the sea,
Among the winds that play,
Among the lowing of the herd,
The rustling of the trees,
Among the singing of the birds,
The humming of the bees.
The foolish fears of what might pass I cast them all away
Among the clover-scented grass,
Among the new-mown hay,
Among the hushing of the corn,
Where drowsy poppies nod,
Where ill thoughts die and good are born-
Out in the fields with God.
OUT IN THE FIELDS WITH GOD
The little cares that fretted me, I lost them yesterday
Among the fields above the sea,
Among the winds that play,
Among the lowing of the herd,
The rustling of the trees,
Among the singing of the birds,
The humming of the bees.
The foolish fears of what might pass I cast them all away
Among the clover-scented grass,
Among the new-mown hay,
Among the hushing of the corn,
Where drowsy poppies nod,
Where ill thoughts die and good are born-
Out in the fields with God.
Poem - No title
No title yet, but this one is an attempt to write a poem based on a true story!
She aches when the light sneaks in the crack of the slowly opening door
her insides begin to rip and tear again, this way since ten
the hands that once held her gently now slither down her back
and no one knows
the scars on her arms a crude reminder of his late night transgressions
swollen and red from the attempt to erase the pain her heart
can no longer bear
one day soon she will fly with Angels wings from this mess
from her pain and suffering and helplessness
but tonight the door cracks open slowly as to not make a sound
and the sliver of light crawls into bed with her once again
she hides her head in her knees as his fingers search the dark
they find their mark
and she dies a little more tonight!
She aches when the light sneaks in the crack of the slowly opening door
her insides begin to rip and tear again, this way since ten
the hands that once held her gently now slither down her back
and no one knows
the scars on her arms a crude reminder of his late night transgressions
swollen and red from the attempt to erase the pain her heart
can no longer bear
one day soon she will fly with Angels wings from this mess
from her pain and suffering and helplessness
but tonight the door cracks open slowly as to not make a sound
and the sliver of light crawls into bed with her once again
she hides her head in her knees as his fingers search the dark
they find their mark
and she dies a little more tonight!
Am I with the right partner?
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" ... The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said,
"It depends. Is that your partner?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" ... The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said,
"It depends. Is that your partner?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥
Ruby, ruby and more rubies and ...when they are not really rubies!
My son's birth stone is a Ruby...and sometimes we have these make-my-momma- feel- good starters conversations and it goes like this ....
Nathan : Mom, do you know what's my favorite stone?
Me : No
Nathan : Do you know what's my lucky stone?
Me : You know I don't believe in that , so I would know
Nathan : Do you atleast know what my birthstone is?
Me : I think its a Diamond, cause there cant be nothing more precious for a son like mine... (coz his sisters birthstone is a diamond)
Nathan: Oh yes , there can be something more precious than a diamond! My birthstone is YOU :)
Rubies are my favorite stones, maybe because I am one :) So I am always on the look out for good reads on rubies...
Sometimes my self enlightening musings need to be posted here to dispel the unintentional deceit we have been privy to. This one in particular was due to lack of the technology back in the day when rubies were discovered. Rubies are nothing more then sapphires as they are both are corundum which is basically aluminum ions and oxygen, impurities thereof create color. For example, what makes the ruby different has to do with minuscule amounts of chromium, in fact, only 1% of the aluminum is replaced with chromium making that highly sought after red color AKA as Pigeon Blood Red.
So what does this have to do with watch parts?
In 1704 the first union of watch movements and rubies came into conception with the advancements wrought by Peter Debaufre, Jacob Debaufre, and Nicolas Facio. The rubies (sapphires) are essentially the watch movement's bearings, and are present on the pallet, the piece which creates that time honored clicking noise against the escape wheel, these are referred to as jewels. When you see a watch that states "17 jewels" it essentially means the "bearings" are usually rubies (sapphires), but can also be garnets or in rare cases diamonds. These however are industrial grade and have very little value. Also around 1900 manufactured or synthetic rubies became the staple "jewel" present in watches. This was due to the efficiency of the process created by Auguste Victor Louis Verneuil, which affectionately called the Verneuil process and also referred to as flame fusion. Actually synthetic rubies (sapphires) were made even before Verneuil rained on the someone's scientific advancement parade, as they were the first on the market in the mid 1800's.
Rubies (sapphires) are historically significant as they are actually the first gem stone to be synthetic or man made.
Who knew that rubies (sapphires) were so special!
Nathan : Mom, do you know what's my favorite stone?
Me : No
Nathan : Do you know what's my lucky stone?
Me : You know I don't believe in that , so I would know
Nathan : Do you atleast know what my birthstone is?
Me : I think its a Diamond, cause there cant be nothing more precious for a son like mine... (coz his sisters birthstone is a diamond)
Nathan: Oh yes , there can be something more precious than a diamond! My birthstone is YOU :)
Rubies are my favorite stones, maybe because I am one :) So I am always on the look out for good reads on rubies...
Sometimes my self enlightening musings need to be posted here to dispel the unintentional deceit we have been privy to. This one in particular was due to lack of the technology back in the day when rubies were discovered. Rubies are nothing more then sapphires as they are both are corundum which is basically aluminum ions and oxygen, impurities thereof create color. For example, what makes the ruby different has to do with minuscule amounts of chromium, in fact, only 1% of the aluminum is replaced with chromium making that highly sought after red color AKA as Pigeon Blood Red.
So what does this have to do with watch parts?
In 1704 the first union of watch movements and rubies came into conception with the advancements wrought by Peter Debaufre, Jacob Debaufre, and Nicolas Facio. The rubies (sapphires) are essentially the watch movement's bearings, and are present on the pallet, the piece which creates that time honored clicking noise against the escape wheel, these are referred to as jewels. When you see a watch that states "17 jewels" it essentially means the "bearings" are usually rubies (sapphires), but can also be garnets or in rare cases diamonds. These however are industrial grade and have very little value. Also around 1900 manufactured or synthetic rubies became the staple "jewel" present in watches. This was due to the efficiency of the process created by Auguste Victor Louis Verneuil, which affectionately called the Verneuil process and also referred to as flame fusion. Actually synthetic rubies (sapphires) were made even before Verneuil rained on the someone's scientific advancement parade, as they were the first on the market in the mid 1800's.
Rubies (sapphires) are historically significant as they are actually the first gem stone to be synthetic or man made.
Who knew that rubies (sapphires) were so special!
Wednesday, 24 July 2013
Parenting!
As a Kids Church Leader and a Volunteer at school as a Child Counselor I have ample opportunity to observe parenting.
Recently, a parent was in with his toddler. As we were talking, the father corrected his toddler who immediately questioned and challenged his father. The father repeated his command to the toddler who then began to negotiate to modify the command. The father came back with a choice to either follow the command or be punished. The toddler was not ready to be overcome, so pulled out his best card. He started crying. Now it was the father who started to re-negotiate the terms of compliance to the command. It seems now the father would be satisfied if the child agreed not to break his command the next time. The father also encouraged the child to not cry and suggested he could get a lollipop if he was good the rest of the time in the office. The toddler quickly agreed and held up his part of the bargain by no longer crying (until he deemed crying necessary again of course). The command and correction the father originally gave was never again mentioned and the offered punishment was withdrawn as an option by simple omission.
My response to this exchange was to correct the father. When I pointed out to him that his original command was never obeyed and that he allowed his child to call the shots, I was met with...you guessed it...excuses and negotiations. No matter who is looking or where you are, it is important that your child receive a calm, consistent and confident response.
Calm is first and key. Expect your child to mess up! You know he will. So why do we act to angry and shocked when it happens? Expect the mistakes. Be ready to respond calmly. Don't change your mind. Be consistent. A child has to learn to trust you. It is much easy to deal with a parent who sticks to their word. If you say you are going to punish then do it! Don't say it if you don't intend to follow through and keep your word. Don't beg and negotiate with your child.
Parent with confidence. You are the authority. You have a precious gift from God. And as the keeper of this gift, you have the duty and God given responsibility to instruct and discipline.
Recently, a parent was in with his toddler. As we were talking, the father corrected his toddler who immediately questioned and challenged his father. The father repeated his command to the toddler who then began to negotiate to modify the command. The father came back with a choice to either follow the command or be punished. The toddler was not ready to be overcome, so pulled out his best card. He started crying. Now it was the father who started to re-negotiate the terms of compliance to the command. It seems now the father would be satisfied if the child agreed not to break his command the next time. The father also encouraged the child to not cry and suggested he could get a lollipop if he was good the rest of the time in the office. The toddler quickly agreed and held up his part of the bargain by no longer crying (until he deemed crying necessary again of course). The command and correction the father originally gave was never again mentioned and the offered punishment was withdrawn as an option by simple omission.
My response to this exchange was to correct the father. When I pointed out to him that his original command was never obeyed and that he allowed his child to call the shots, I was met with...you guessed it...excuses and negotiations. No matter who is looking or where you are, it is important that your child receive a calm, consistent and confident response.
Calm is first and key. Expect your child to mess up! You know he will. So why do we act to angry and shocked when it happens? Expect the mistakes. Be ready to respond calmly. Don't change your mind. Be consistent. A child has to learn to trust you. It is much easy to deal with a parent who sticks to their word. If you say you are going to punish then do it! Don't say it if you don't intend to follow through and keep your word. Don't beg and negotiate with your child.
Parent with confidence. You are the authority. You have a precious gift from God. And as the keeper of this gift, you have the duty and God given responsibility to instruct and discipline.
Monday, 22 July 2013
The TENTH Commandment
I've never, in my years as a Christian, heard a sermon on the Tenth Commandment. We can't possibly preach on "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's goods" because Western society is based on that. It's called capitalism. Mass advertising tells us we need things none of us need. It sows confusion about what's important for life. The level of need has moved to such a level of illusion and sophistication that what were once ultimate luxuries have become necessities.
In our culture, people cannot feel good about themselves unless next year's vacation is more luxurious than last year's, unless everything is upgraded—while most of God's people on this earth starve. The affluent West has made happiness impossible. We've created a pseudo- happiness, a pseudo-success, a pseudo-security that will never satisfy the human heart.
Most of God's people are forced to learn to find happiness and freedom at a much more simple level. The gospel says that's where happiness is always to be found. That is about as traditional, old-fashioned, conservative a gospel as there is, and it will never change. We have to keep saying it:
"There is a Tenth Commandment."
EXODUS 20:1-17
1 And God spoke all these words:
2 "I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. 3 "You shall have no other gods before me.
4 "You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.
5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me,
6 but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.
7 "You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.
8 "Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.
9 Six days you shall labor and do all your work,
10 but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates.
11 For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.
12 "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.
13 "You shall not murder.
14 "You shall not commit adultery.
15 "You shall not steal.
16 "You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.
17 "You shall not covet your neighbor's house. You shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor."
PEACE
I have been writing about peace lately, more in my head and my personal journal than in my blog..
I'm not sure when the idea started, but I'm certain of it's evolution. I wish, not for the sake of vanity but for clarity, I had a video representation of my journey. I know we've become a visual culture with the attention span of sound bites rather than the unfolding of novels that most lives represent. So I wish I could show you my journey. From darkness to LIGHT, poverty of soul and riches, homelessness in pursuit of a dream, love unrequited and unfulfilled, lessons taught from the pit, reinforcement given to selfish and self-centered wanderers who left fuller than they came while I remained the same.., yes, the visual would have to be sufficient because there's no way I could tell it all.
The thoughts I've been writing on Peace about Peace come after years of never fully having it as a sustained presence.., only the illusion of it, while I isolated myself from even from the idea of a challenge to my self-imposed Peace, where only I aged inside my bubble, while I shared about a life lived, but recognized daily, that it was a life unfinished. What's next? I haven't a clue. I'm not engaged in anyone's life completely. I can't say for certain where I'm needed.., if I'm needed.., or what's left for me to truly do.., that's engaging enough to draw me out and into the chaos, again. I don't think it can possibly be a 'thing' that would be able to do that, anyway, being a woman moved more by relationship than opportunity.
But here I sit.., and type, wishing I could share the images in my head rather than, at times, only the words of my heart.
But for now.., the Heart will have to do.
PEACE. May it find us all, at the right moment, in time.
I'm not sure when the idea started, but I'm certain of it's evolution. I wish, not for the sake of vanity but for clarity, I had a video representation of my journey. I know we've become a visual culture with the attention span of sound bites rather than the unfolding of novels that most lives represent. So I wish I could show you my journey. From darkness to LIGHT, poverty of soul and riches, homelessness in pursuit of a dream, love unrequited and unfulfilled, lessons taught from the pit, reinforcement given to selfish and self-centered wanderers who left fuller than they came while I remained the same.., yes, the visual would have to be sufficient because there's no way I could tell it all.
The thoughts I've been writing on Peace about Peace come after years of never fully having it as a sustained presence.., only the illusion of it, while I isolated myself from even from the idea of a challenge to my self-imposed Peace, where only I aged inside my bubble, while I shared about a life lived, but recognized daily, that it was a life unfinished. What's next? I haven't a clue. I'm not engaged in anyone's life completely. I can't say for certain where I'm needed.., if I'm needed.., or what's left for me to truly do.., that's engaging enough to draw me out and into the chaos, again. I don't think it can possibly be a 'thing' that would be able to do that, anyway, being a woman moved more by relationship than opportunity.
But here I sit.., and type, wishing I could share the images in my head rather than, at times, only the words of my heart.
But for now.., the Heart will have to do.
PEACE. May it find us all, at the right moment, in time.
Intervention
I watched an old episode of Intervention and this is probably the worst episode I've ever seen. This girl has been an alcoholic for seven years and uses pain killers. I guess six months before either the recording or the airing of this episode she was contacted by police and got her world f-ing ROCKED! They showed up and showed her videos of a guy RAPING HER and she had NO F-ING CLUE!
I cannot even imagine going through something like that. HTF does one allow oneself to go that far below rock bottom that she can't even remember being raped because of her own drug and alcohol abuse. Being date raped is a whole other story that I'm not touching on here because that is not voluntary in the sense that you know what you are exposing yourself to voluntarily when you use alcohol or drugs. Seeing oneself being raped in a video taped by the guy who did it to you is quite the shattering piece of information. I know it would tear my life apart. Still though, I'm still extremely shocked at the simple fact that this woman did not stop drinking or using pain medicines after discovering what happened to her while she was so far gone off them. She in fact made her problem even worse. Obviously this has been her only coping mechanism that she thinks works best for her but how can you NOT WANT TO CHANGE THAT when you find something out like that?!
Maybe I should not have watched it. But these are real issues. Issues that we like to pretend that they don't exist. I feel sad. I can pray, but I wonder what will ever come out of it... I'm so messed up in my head, it ain't funny. A part of me just wants to reach out and love on these people. If there is a God, I pray that He will reveal himself to people who hurt so bad that don't know night from day let alone right from wrong or good from bad.
I really truly hope that if anyone is ever in her shoes that he or she would realize that they need to make some serious changes in their life if they was ever informed that they had been raped without being aware of it in any kind of way. I hope that if they couldn't figure that out on their own that their parents, family, friends would make them learn it involuntarily.
We spend a lot of time digging ourselves out of the holes that we dig ourselves into throughout our entire life. I know if I was where she is at. . .I would be desperate for someone to help me dig myself out. I have to say that if any of my friends or families were at where she is I would do everything I could to save them even if that's the last thing that they want. I couldn't let myself live with the fact that I didn't do everything I could for them if I didn't.
VERY HURT - UPSET - CANT REASON right now!!!
I WISH I KNEW WHAT TO DO...EVEN IF IT WAS THROWING JUST ONE STAR FISH BACK INTO THE OCEAN...
I cannot even imagine going through something like that. HTF does one allow oneself to go that far below rock bottom that she can't even remember being raped because of her own drug and alcohol abuse. Being date raped is a whole other story that I'm not touching on here because that is not voluntary in the sense that you know what you are exposing yourself to voluntarily when you use alcohol or drugs. Seeing oneself being raped in a video taped by the guy who did it to you is quite the shattering piece of information. I know it would tear my life apart. Still though, I'm still extremely shocked at the simple fact that this woman did not stop drinking or using pain medicines after discovering what happened to her while she was so far gone off them. She in fact made her problem even worse. Obviously this has been her only coping mechanism that she thinks works best for her but how can you NOT WANT TO CHANGE THAT when you find something out like that?!
Maybe I should not have watched it. But these are real issues. Issues that we like to pretend that they don't exist. I feel sad. I can pray, but I wonder what will ever come out of it... I'm so messed up in my head, it ain't funny. A part of me just wants to reach out and love on these people. If there is a God, I pray that He will reveal himself to people who hurt so bad that don't know night from day let alone right from wrong or good from bad.
I really truly hope that if anyone is ever in her shoes that he or she would realize that they need to make some serious changes in their life if they was ever informed that they had been raped without being aware of it in any kind of way. I hope that if they couldn't figure that out on their own that their parents, family, friends would make them learn it involuntarily.
We spend a lot of time digging ourselves out of the holes that we dig ourselves into throughout our entire life. I know if I was where she is at. . .I would be desperate for someone to help me dig myself out. I have to say that if any of my friends or families were at where she is I would do everything I could to save them even if that's the last thing that they want. I couldn't let myself live with the fact that I didn't do everything I could for them if I didn't.
VERY HURT - UPSET - CANT REASON right now!!!
I WISH I KNEW WHAT TO DO...EVEN IF IT WAS THROWING JUST ONE STAR FISH BACK INTO THE OCEAN...
Drugs, my 2 cents on control
In an attempt to be a more informed woman given the fact that I talk to a lot of women who have issues with drugs thanks to BEAR India. I decided to watch a video...
I watched a video of an Australian show that was openly discussing drug use. On the show was teenagers who were either users or nonusers of drugs, parents of individuals who had overdosed and subsequently died of drug use, and researchers of drugs. Unfortunately, there was no government official present despite an invitation. The debate was centered around the idea of whether illegal drugs should be made legal through the process of harmonization where the government practices control of the drugs and the use of them or if prohibition of illegal drug use should be continued. The teenagers, especially two girls, argued that the drug use among their friends and fellow party goers was largely underestimated and in fact the majority of party goers are drug users. They defend their so called "recreational drug use" (this is what they called going out 2-3 times a week and using drugs each time) because they believe that it is a lot better, safer, and more convenient then drinking alcohol. They believe they practice in a recreational manner because they took the drugs "safely" meaning they only accepted drugs from people they knew and only took the drugs around people they knew. Despite the fact that I completely disagree with their point of view, I am in support of harmonization. The parents argued obviously for continued prohibition and the researchers were seemingly in between. Because I am in support of harmonization does not mean that I support drug use. I, in fact, do not use drugs and do not believe that anyone should use drugs regardless of whether or not that person is an addict or a recreational drug user. For this. . .I will be using the term recreational drug user as an individual who occasionally uses like the girls. They use the drug but their lives do not center around it, they are not dependent on it. Addicts are individuals who's lives center around the use of the drug, they are desperate to get their hands on it and will go to any length to get some.
Let's start with the ads against drugs that are displayed by the government as a No Tolerance Policy on drug use. The parents on the show felt that the ads are not targeted towards the teens and the drug users. Instead these ads are targeted to the parents, encouraging them to become involved in the lives of their children to ensure their safety and non drug use. The teens felt that these ads were also not targeted towards them because they think the ads are targeted for novice users, individuals who have just started or who have yet to start and are considering it. Both teens and parents do not feel they are successful in their goals. The teens just see the ads as shock tactics and that they are unrealistic, possibly as a result of their invincible and "this will never happen to me" attitudes. The consensus was that they just are working as effectively as they should be, that they were a waste of time and money. Personally, I believe the ads are not working as effectively as they should be either. I do believe that they are having an impact on keeping those novices away through the use of shock tactics and information on what could happen, but I believe that teens are in the mindset of whatever you tell them no to do, they are just going to go out and do. They could almost be seen as challengers to teens in the sense that they encourage them to prove the statistics wrong and demonstrate that they really are "invincible" and that the results that were shown in a commercial really aren't realistic. I do not think we should stop using them by all means, I just think we need something else to help out. Basically the sense of confidence and invincibility in the recreational user and drug addicts is not going to change as easily as a shocking ad. You have to wonder, exactly what will it take for them to realize the true consequences of their behavior?
Did you know that marijuana is seen as the safest drug to use? It is easily identified as a "soft drug". Unfortunately it is much more damaging then a lot of people realize. In fact, habitual use of the drug can result in psychosis.
Now to my argument for harmonization. I believe the government should maintain the use of drugs after decriminalization. Age limits, amounts available, purity, what is in the drug, comorbid use can all be regulated among RECREATIONAL USERS ONLY. I do not ignore the fact that although it would be nice to remove all the drugs from the streets and hands of gangsters, the control is still a business. Whoever has the cheapest is where the ADDICTS will go to. Despite the fact that there will always be the street drug dealers, I am relying on the fact that recreational users will not trust the street drug more than they will trust the government drug. Although they know the consequences of taking the drug, the drug they will be given will be "SAFER" in the sense of purity, because it is CONTROLLED. Recreational users will have the added assurance of a pure drug from a safe source. I also realize that it is a slippery slope between recreational use and addiction, but even though I can not come up with my personal ideas on how to regulate that I'm sure something could be managed. I also realize that because there is money behind it and because wherever their is money, people will do whatever they can to get their hands on it, dirty pills will still make it into the government regulated system. I believe that because those individuals who would be behind this scheme would be more concerned with the amount of money in the long run so instead of not caring what is actually in the drug in terms of purity like gangsters and only focusing on the amount of money they can make, I believe the government officials will allow only a certain amount of dirtiness if you will to enter into the purity. I think the government will be more concerned of maintaining their customer case rather than killing them so they will be very careful about their mixing. Government control will ensure that people know what they are taking. Recreational users will not go to gangsters despite the cheaper offerings because they can not be sure of what is actually in the drug being sold. Addicts will go anywhere and to anyone so they are not considered.
We have regulated the use of tobacco. We have regulated the use of alcohol. We have regulated the use of cigarettes, in 1960 60% of the male population alone smoked, after regulation now only 18% smoke. We regulate gambling to a certain extent. I believe that we have successfully reduced the rates of these problems by regulating them so what's so wrong with at least TRYING harmonization. I'm not looking to eliminate drug use. I strongly believe that as long as the world produces the necessary ingredients to create drugs, we will always have them. I am looking to reduce the drug use problem. Prohibition, is not working at it's current state. I am definitely not saying that it won't ever work but it's not currently working so why not try something else? With new government regulation, means a new government branch, which in turn means MORE NEW JOBS. I'm just saying. . .[=
If you do not agree. . .feel free to tell me why. If you do agree. . .feel free to tell me why. If you have any suggestions whether to enhance harmonization or prohibition feel free. Mark and I have discussed this a great deal and I'm sure I have left out a lot, especially the side of against legalizing illegal drugs but hey I'm biased what can I say?!?! Lol. . .I'm definitely open to different points of view though.
More - for - less Fashion & Me
So I've decided that although I'm not a fashion guru I am obsessed with fashion. I like to wear the latest styles because they make me feel good about myself. I don't care about impressing other people or trying to show off the money that I don't have by buying the stuff that I can't really afford. I believe in the quote that goes something a long the lines of making yourself look good makes YOU feel good and that's important to me.
I realize that I spend far too much money on shopping HOWEVER I pride myself on my control because I don't do as bad as some women do. I am a compulsive shopper but that is because I was raised to always get what I want. Whatever I wanted, my parents let me get it whether they got it for me or they made me work to get it. . .it was mine. It's nice to know that not everything was just handed to me so I have the safety of knowing that I have to earn the shit I really want. I also am proud of myself because I'm 35 and have 0 CREDIT CARDS. I recently applied for some but was denied and for good reasons since I don't have a regular office job anymore. Either way though, the CC's were OFF LIMITS FOR SHOPPING! They were to be for use like going out to dinner.. and to NOT beg my friends to book my train tickets. (which when done online is easier using a credit card).easy stuff to pay off quickly. I wish I had the money to spend on more stuff. . .I wouldn't buy the most expensive stuff because I can get almost the EXACT SAME STUFF for cheaper.
Anyways. . .I am so THANKFUL I don't live in the fashion capitals though because otherwise I would spend SO MUCH MORE MONEY!!!! I am addicted to fashion and addicted to shopping but there's no WAY IN HELL I could resist it if I lived in any fashion capital! hahahah I think I might do some "shopping" later tonight ....
Sunday, 21 July 2013
How updates on FB are a waste of time...
I do not read facebook updates but private messages: I try to read them all.
Off late , updates, I've noticed, have switched to a peculiar trend trickling out of network marketing: free advice; people telling others how to love their lives.
Disagreement usually follows despite the good intentions. Arguments inevitably result. And the advice mutates into melt-down drama. I've chosen to be sucked down into this before and I've never found or observed a positive result.
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Disagreement usually follows despite the good intentions. Arguments inevitably result. And the advice mutates into melt-down drama. I've chosen to be sucked down into this before and I've never found or observed a positive result.
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We live such different and diverse lives that no advice appears to be universal enough to not lead to controversy. We can only live by example of facing our own failures; not boss others to do it when we cannot. People don't usually want advice. Sometimes they just want to find that someone relates to and understands their struggle.
God granted me the chance to become courageous enough to climb, confident enough to walk and certain enough to fly. But always, repeatedly, humble enough to crash, when I think I've found "the way" to do things.
I've made so many mistakes in my life that I feel certain that I can only transparently share my pitfalls. I don't have any answers; only empathy and support. After the privilege of listening to thousands of people's struggles, life has repeatedly demonstrated that every person has all the answers they ever need within them.
The three biggest struggles I've encountered in my own life have been to:
1. Face my past without guilt or shame, but rather with gratitude and compassion.
2. Live my present without hesitation or waffling, but rather with confidence and conviction.
3. Prepare for my future without anxiety or fear, but rather with fellowship and faith.
When I awake, I have my drink of water. Then, I do my morning meditation before my daily exercise and breakfast. My meditation is nothing elaborate and amounts to a mere prayer for proper attitude to empower my purpose:
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'Not events, circumstances or others, have the power to make me happy or unhappy, strong or weak, ready or unbalanced, but myself alone. I choose my day.
Yesterday has given me its gifts, and tomorrow has not yet arrived to offer me yet its opportunities. So, today alone, I will face with ready hands, a clear mind and an open heart.'
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As you face yours, I stand next to you, vulnerable and raw. We may fail temporarily, but by facing them and falling, we can prove to ourselves that we can stand up again; and thereby inspire others to do the same.
What I am thankful for today...
a friend of mine asked on facebook, as a status message, what everyone was thankful for...
Here is my list :
I'm thankful for my determined mindset. Without it I would not be where I am today.
I'm thankful for my determined mindset. Without it I would not be where I am today.
I'm thankful for my 2 kids, the only reason I want to wake up every morning
I'm thankful for my parents, loving and caring and supportive.
I'm thankful for my brothers - hardworking role models and their wives.
I'm thankful for my education.
I'm thankful for my sense of humor and the ability to laugh at myself coz of which most days are definitely better
I'm thankful for my job.
I'm thankful for the little bit of money that I do make because it does help!
I'm thankful for NOT HAVING THE most amazing EX's (2 only). I have some great memories (nonetheless) even though mostly bad ones because of which today I am independent, gutsy, brave, bold, strong and have a I -give a rat's behind - attitude to a lot of stuff...
I'm thankful for my true friends. The ones that have lasted and the ones that are struggling to still last.
I'm thankful for the food and a roof over my head...
I'm thankful for all the idiots in my life that add drama to my life, even though I hate it...I don't ever have watch a soap ,ever!
I'm thankful for my medicine that I forgot to take this morning :) I think its secret ingredient makes me not rant so much ...
I'm thankful for the individuals who are working to make the country I live in safe.
I'm thankful for the many hard lessons in life I have learned, including NO SPEEDING
I'm thankful for alcohol
I'm thankful for my material things
I'm thankful for my entertainment. . music, the internet. my phone.
I'm thankful for my parents, loving and caring and supportive.
I'm thankful for my brothers - hardworking role models and their wives.
I'm thankful for my education.
I'm thankful for my sense of humor and the ability to laugh at myself coz of which most days are definitely better
I'm thankful for my job.
I'm thankful for the little bit of money that I do make because it does help!
I'm thankful for NOT HAVING THE most amazing EX's (2 only). I have some great memories (nonetheless) even though mostly bad ones because of which today I am independent, gutsy, brave, bold, strong and have a I -give a rat's behind - attitude to a lot of stuff...
I'm thankful for my true friends. The ones that have lasted and the ones that are struggling to still last.
I'm thankful for the food and a roof over my head...
I'm thankful for all the idiots in my life that add drama to my life, even though I hate it...I don't ever have watch a soap ,ever!
I'm thankful for my medicine that I forgot to take this morning :) I think its secret ingredient makes me not rant so much ...
I'm thankful for the individuals who are working to make the country I live in safe.
I'm thankful for the many hard lessons in life I have learned, including NO SPEEDING
I'm thankful for alcohol
I'm thankful for my material things
I'm thankful for my entertainment. . music, the internet. my phone.
Dang, that's a lot of things to be thankful for!
I AM THANKFUL!
My ramblings on internet addiction.
I've recently become really aggravated with people lately. So, I'm just blogging that I'm going to be doing some dumping - out - the - old. As of right now, I don't plan on bringing anyone / anything new in. I just don't care for it.
I'm seriously thinking of deleting my Facebook profile today. I will delete my other accounts on various other social networking sites however, I've heard you have to jump through all those many hoops to be able to do so and the fact that I never get on any of the others much anyways would make it a waste of time. I'm just going to go through and delete all that shit that's on there. Pictures and all, of course after saving them. But then there are some people I keep in touch only via FB, some happen to be my clients...not to mention that out of my 400 hundreds I found this one person who I instantly connected with, the kind that I could spend the rest of my life with... A part of me wants to think that it would have never been the case if I wasn't on FB while the part of me wants to think that, if we destined to meet , we would have anyways!
The fact that I just want to be done with it is not the only reason. I'm disgusted with how addicted people are to the internet and social networks. First of all, everyone knows damn well that the only reason why they ask people to be their friend on those things is so that they can nose into their lives and know what they have been doing and where they are in life. Also, it's so they can compare where they are to where their friends are. Oh, so yeah, high school never ended huh? By the way, I don't need to know WTF they are doing in every minute of their life. I can't even comprehend the fact that a girl I know today was updating her status as she was getting an epidural shot to induce her labor today. I cant believe how f-ing addicted one can be that she could not take the time to leave her Facebook alone while she had her baby? How f-ing pathetic.
I'm seriously thinking of deleting my Facebook profile today. I will delete my other accounts on various other social networking sites however, I've heard you have to jump through all those many hoops to be able to do so and the fact that I never get on any of the others much anyways would make it a waste of time. I'm just going to go through and delete all that shit that's on there. Pictures and all, of course after saving them. But then there are some people I keep in touch only via FB, some happen to be my clients...not to mention that out of my 400 hundreds I found this one person who I instantly connected with, the kind that I could spend the rest of my life with... A part of me wants to think that it would have never been the case if I wasn't on FB while the part of me wants to think that, if we destined to meet , we would have anyways!
The fact that I just want to be done with it is not the only reason. I'm disgusted with how addicted people are to the internet and social networks. First of all, everyone knows damn well that the only reason why they ask people to be their friend on those things is so that they can nose into their lives and know what they have been doing and where they are in life. Also, it's so they can compare where they are to where their friends are. Oh, so yeah, high school never ended huh? By the way, I don't need to know WTF they are doing in every minute of their life. I can't even comprehend the fact that a girl I know today was updating her status as she was getting an epidural shot to induce her labor today. I cant believe how f-ing addicted one can be that she could not take the time to leave her Facebook alone while she had her baby? How f-ing pathetic.
I'm also disappointed with the fact that people are so used to communicating on the internet that they no longer know how to properly communicate offline. Albert Einstein's worst fear in finally coming true..
Anyways, I'm going to get going and end my ranting for now....
Saturday, 20 July 2013
Men , thier stupid words and even stupider thoughts!
I’ve been thinking about this post. Thinking about it and thinking about it. And no matter how I try to shape it, I keep on going off on wild tangents. So consider this your warning. Wild tangents ahead.
I don’t know why, but the other day I was thinking about one of my last conversations that I had with my ex at least 5 years ago... He was (not) apologizing to me. For the third or fourth or fifteenth time. I’d lost count.
He never actually apologized. Never.
He’d acknowledge that my feelings were hurt. Acknowledge that the hurt had something to do with him. And then not take responsibility for actually hurting me. Because it was never his fault. Never.
I chose to be hurt. Or something like that.
On this particular occasion, he pointed out that he knew women who had real reasons to be upset with the men in their lives. The guys hit them or said horrible things to them. And he’d never said a mean thing to me. He was clear in this. He’d never said anything unkind, so I had no reason to be mad. Which was true. He was, almost always, a sweet talker.
But one of the very few things I’ve learned about men and relationships is that the words they say don’t really mean much. Not really. It’s what they DO that matters. So a man who treats you poorly but then says nice things… he’s probably not a good person to build a long term relationship with. Because when it comes right down to it, words don’t mean much.
And if a guy doesn’t understand HOW to treat a woman right, make her feel respected and treasured as opposed to taken for granted, then he isn’t worth your time in the first place.
What I miss most!
Last night, while was lying in bed, I suddenly realized that what I miss, more than anything, is spending the whole night tangled up with someone. Being held.
No It’s not the S word that I miss.
I miss the trust and the intimacy. The closeness.
It’s been too long. Really too long.
I actually wish I could say that I don’t remember the last time. But that would be a lie. I do remember the last time. And remembering it, really thinking about it, still makes me well up with tears. For lots of reasons.
Anyway. I miss that. A lot. A. LOT.
More than the daytime hours companionship. More than having someone to lean on. More than I should.
And ever since I started to think about it, I can’t seem to think about anything else.
So Not good!!!
No It’s not the S word that I miss.
I miss the trust and the intimacy. The closeness.
It’s been too long. Really too long.
I actually wish I could say that I don’t remember the last time. But that would be a lie. I do remember the last time. And remembering it, really thinking about it, still makes me well up with tears. For lots of reasons.
Anyway. I miss that. A lot. A. LOT.
More than the daytime hours companionship. More than having someone to lean on. More than I should.
And ever since I started to think about it, I can’t seem to think about anything else.
So Not good!!!
Friday, 19 July 2013
You can. You will. You choose!
Struggling, flailing, scratching, I clawed at his forearm, but I was a frail 18 year old and he a 6 feet huge guy. All I could do was look up through the shimmering tears at his distorted image. Finally, I gave up and just waited, unmoving, praying that it would not be very painful. But he would let go of my hair bunched up in is hand only to release a headache that felt like a million hammers on my head.
He was a family friend that my dad trusted as my protector, little did my father know of the things he could do to harm his lil girl. Until one day he slapped me and dragged me 2 floors and threw me down the stairs, with about a hundred people watching; there were security guards, employees, vendors, strangers in the office building ALL only mute spectators...but I was supposed to believe that it was all for love!
What does one do when "the protector" turns into a stalker...a pain inflicting stalker, pain at different levels ....In retrospect, it wasn't even a wake up call to reality like it was supposed to be instead I had to wrap my head around it cause he loved me so much that he could see nobody else near me...
I ran into him at a restaurant. He came over to me and my son. Shocked, I robotically stood and said hello, and answered his questions about my life. "I heard you are divorced and you have survived as a single mother and are doing well for yourself.," he said, "See? I guess all those many times I was tough on you paid off."
A fuse blew inside me. I was no longer in that situation and I could have easily said some very nasty things in front of his wife and lil girl to let them in to see a little bit of what he had caused to me when I was only 18. But my son touched my forearm gently, and as I turned to look at him, my eyes softened, and to my awareness reopened. I came back into myself.
"It is not what you wrongly did to me, but what I correctly grew within myself. It is not what you put me through that defined who I am. It is how I got through it that has made me the person I am today." As I said these words, I put money on the table and my son and I walked out.
Your coping skills you develop to combat and escape your traumatic circumstances are a credit to you and those who loved and supported you through them. You deserve the credit for being a survivor and a victor. Circumstances, or the people who cause them, do not deserve any gratitude for what they did to you.
Be grateful for the opportunity you created within yourself to grow. Certainly, you can feel gratitude that events and people happened in your life, because when they happened, you discovered within yourself that your resources are far greater than you had imagined them to be.
As Wayne Dyer writes, "With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself, or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow, or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose."
When you face a crisis, don't ask, "Why did this happen to me? Can I even get out of this?" Ask yourself, "What do I have to access which will resolve this challenge, and how can I grow from this despite it?" You can. You will. You choose.
He was a family friend that my dad trusted as my protector, little did my father know of the things he could do to harm his lil girl. Until one day he slapped me and dragged me 2 floors and threw me down the stairs, with about a hundred people watching; there were security guards, employees, vendors, strangers in the office building ALL only mute spectators...but I was supposed to believe that it was all for love!
What does one do when "the protector" turns into a stalker...a pain inflicting stalker, pain at different levels ....In retrospect, it wasn't even a wake up call to reality like it was supposed to be instead I had to wrap my head around it cause he loved me so much that he could see nobody else near me...
I ran into him at a restaurant. He came over to me and my son. Shocked, I robotically stood and said hello, and answered his questions about my life. "I heard you are divorced and you have survived as a single mother and are doing well for yourself.," he said, "See? I guess all those many times I was tough on you paid off."
A fuse blew inside me. I was no longer in that situation and I could have easily said some very nasty things in front of his wife and lil girl to let them in to see a little bit of what he had caused to me when I was only 18. But my son touched my forearm gently, and as I turned to look at him, my eyes softened, and to my awareness reopened. I came back into myself.
"It is not what you wrongly did to me, but what I correctly grew within myself. It is not what you put me through that defined who I am. It is how I got through it that has made me the person I am today." As I said these words, I put money on the table and my son and I walked out.
Your coping skills you develop to combat and escape your traumatic circumstances are a credit to you and those who loved and supported you through them. You deserve the credit for being a survivor and a victor. Circumstances, or the people who cause them, do not deserve any gratitude for what they did to you.
Be grateful for the opportunity you created within yourself to grow. Certainly, you can feel gratitude that events and people happened in your life, because when they happened, you discovered within yourself that your resources are far greater than you had imagined them to be.
As Wayne Dyer writes, "With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself, or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow, or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose."
When you face a crisis, don't ask, "Why did this happen to me? Can I even get out of this?" Ask yourself, "What do I have to access which will resolve this challenge, and how can I grow from this despite it?" You can. You will. You choose.
Thinking about thinking & writing!
I've been doing some thinking about
thinking.
Miles
of column space and endless vocal-cord waggery are regularly devoted to the
actual craft of writing. All that 'sitting down, tapping at keys' stuff.
Comparatively
little is ever said about the sheer volume of thought which must take place
before that writing begins. Thinking time is vital for the writer and yet
rarely gets discussed. It's as if brilliant ideas only spring up through
the act of writing itself.
I love
the fact that we're now bombarded by more information, social media,
entertainment and downright choice than ever before. Anyone
claiming to be bored these days frankly must have something wrong with them.
Our inboxes, RSS feeds, Twitter columns and general environments are
endless sources of brain stimulation. We get to do and experience way
more than previous generations. It's easy to take it for granted that,
for instance, we now have written conversations with people over the course of
minutes via e-methods as opposed to weeks via snail-mail. Everything is
increasingly compressed and we're increasingly impatient. However, these
developments also threaten our opportunities to relax and think about nothing.
Oh, sweet, precious nothing.
Wander
down the street, attempting to dream your little dreamy dreams, and see how
quickly your train of thought gets hijacked by any number of things and people.
See how easily your eye gets diverted by, say, one of those flashy
animated adverts at bus stops, or on the Tube. There may be
clipboard-Nazis, flyer people or rain. In places like gym changing rooms,
or even steam rooms, where you might reasonably hope to switch your brain to
neutral and see what it naturally serves up, there's often that socially inappropriate
character who wants a conversation. Annoying reminders of everyday chores
might pop up to plague you. And even if none of those things happen,
someone's bound to text or call that magical metal rectangle in your pocket.
Unless
we're careful, our brains may never get a chance to work from a blank slate.
If our minds are whiteboards, they spend a great deal of time every day
being scrawled on by other people. The subconscious mind tends to be good
at solving problems, and occasionally at creating new ideas, even while we're
asleep, yet it's important to force the issue and make time to think. Actually
schedule it. Prioritize it. Confiscate everyone else's marker pens,
grab a yellow duster and scrub that mental whiteboard clean. Embrace the
blankness.
If
we're thinking alone, even while defacing our non-metaphorical whiteboard
and/or notepad, we need to overcome the nagging feeling that we're not doing real
work. Of course we are. Ideas are king. Sure, the
execution arguably matters most - which is part of the reason why you can't
copyright an idea, only its realisation - but without that genius concept in
the first place, there's no seed to nurture into a delightful bloom. A
great idea should never be underestimated because it came to you in the space
of ten seconds. Probably best for us writers to drop all thoughts of
being paid by the hour.
So
we must ignore those nagging feelings, which undervalue what we're doing.
Because Christ only knows, hardly anyone else is going to understand this
'sitting around thinking' business. To other people, a writer sitting
around thinking - especially if he or she happens to be in a pub - is a
work-shy daydreamer, who has been irritatingly successful in finding an excuse
to do nothing. It just looks like a person lounging around doing sod all
while others demonstrably toil with the aid of corporeal items like heavy
machinery or spreadsheets. Others probably imagine us sitting there with
Homer Simpson-esque thought bubbles suspended above our heads, in which
skeletal cows merrily play fiddles.
While
some people genuinely don't understand writers' thinking-sessions, I'll wager
that others understand only too well. And they may envy us. We get
to sit in cafes, libraries or pub beer gardens for hours on end - ideally not
drinking booze, admittedly, unless you're one of those characters who works
best with a loosened brain - and come up with notions while using
nothing for reference except The Stuff In Our Brains. Along the way, when
we settle on a project, sure, we'll do a little research, or maybe even a great
deal. But we get to sit there, creating stuff from scratch as our neurons
pinwheel about - an action which is entirely invisible.
No
wonder writing tends to be such a solitary occupation: all that thinking
naturally makes it an internalised task, even before we glue ourselves to a
desk-chair and do the actual writing (just then, instead of "the actual
writing", I very nearly wrote "the real hard graft of writing".
Proves how easy it is to forget just how much heavy-lifting is done by
the brain alone, even when you're writing a blogpost about it). Right
there at the start of the process, it's just us: our minds, our notepads, our
Post-It notes on the wall, our whiteboards, our Evernote accounts, our text
documents entitled Loose Ideas. It's initially all very personal and
shielded from the outside world - a world which we must then work out how best
to excite with our big ideas.
It's
not for nothing that the once Doctor Who show runner Steven Moffat prefered not
to tell anyone about his ideas until he wrote them - the reactions of others,
even if it's a qualified enthusiasm, can blow some of the magic dust away.
"It's so important," he said in an interview for Doctor Who
Magazine in 2008, "the magic of Not Telling Anyone Yet. I know
Russell [T Davies] thinks that way too – he won’t tell anybody what he’s doing.
Because it turns to ashes in your mouth. It almost becomes ordinary.”
"The
sheer amount of thinking you have to do, to make this work!" he
exclaimed. "When I read scripts that are bad, it’s often because
they’re just lazy. The writer hasn’t thought things through in the way that I
would. There was a quote from John Cleese, around the time he was ruling the
world with Fawlty Towers: 'If I’m any good at writing comedy, it’s because I
know how hard it’s supposed to be.' And that’s it. It’s shockingly difficult
and emotionally upsetting!”
So
modern life's intensity is a thing of wonder, but also threatens to erode those
special times when we get to rejoice in stirring that big, utterly unique
cauldron inside our heads. Fight for your time to think, without the
slightest hint of shame. Book yourself a whole string of psychological
working holidays
Tuesday, 9 July 2013
The chocolate milk diet!
I read a yahoo article that chocolate milk is one of the most powerful weight-loss tools in the nutritional universe. Yes. This news is great. This is a fun way to lose weight! 'Each bottle delivers a package of micro- and macronutrients that can help you shake off body flab and replace it with firm muscle'.
The article says that you need to drink one glass in the morning once you wake up, before you workout and right after your training session. The many benefits of this drink are
a. that calcium in the milk can actually impede your body’s ability to absorb fat
b. it is fortified with vitamin D which helps to move the calcium from food to the body
c. you perform better and greater in your workout session as it gives you more energy and keeps you hydrated (even more than water).
d. you get protein which helps you to build muscle and helps you to burn more fat.
So, start drinking chocolate milk today. I'm one step ahead in weight-loss programme. I only need to motivate myself to start exercising which I have abandoned for a looooonggg time now. Hmm... And that's the most difficult thing to do. HELP!!!
The article says that you need to drink one glass in the morning once you wake up, before you workout and right after your training session. The many benefits of this drink are
a. that calcium in the milk can actually impede your body’s ability to absorb fat
b. it is fortified with vitamin D which helps to move the calcium from food to the body
c. you perform better and greater in your workout session as it gives you more energy and keeps you hydrated (even more than water).
d. you get protein which helps you to build muscle and helps you to burn more fat.
So, start drinking chocolate milk today. I'm one step ahead in weight-loss programme. I only need to motivate myself to start exercising which I have abandoned for a looooonggg time now. Hmm... And that's the most difficult thing to do. HELP!!!
Monday, 8 July 2013
Beliefs!
Someone had the ignorant audacity to post on my facebook timeline, "Why do you let (insert name of religion) people comment on your page? I thought you were a true (insert name of religion). You're damned with them for permitting it." Then, the individual began attacking people on my timeline who were not of their religious beliefs. They've been banned.
I've spent extended time with people of many religions. I was raised by Christian parents, a preacher dad and very god fearing devout Pentecostal mom , then trained by a Buddhist and then was taught music and dance by many a hindu. As Gandhi stated, "Like the bee gathering honey from different flowers, the wise man accepts the essence of different scriptures, and sees only the good in all religions."
I am a simple girl and in remaining simple, I am continually aware that there are no profane events or people in life. Everything and everyone is sacred; including that which and those whom I personally do not understand (perhaps especially so.)
However, though I do not understand those who hate other groups, I do not tolerate hate speech of any kind in my home, including here on my blog or on my facebook page. I prefer to learn and grow with and from everyone... except those who want to destroy others purely because they hold different beliefs.
Live and let live. Or take it somewhere else.
Very respectfully
Ruby -
I've spent extended time with people of many religions. I was raised by Christian parents, a preacher dad and very god fearing devout Pentecostal mom , then trained by a Buddhist and then was taught music and dance by many a hindu. As Gandhi stated, "Like the bee gathering honey from different flowers, the wise man accepts the essence of different scriptures, and sees only the good in all religions."
I am a simple girl and in remaining simple, I am continually aware that there are no profane events or people in life. Everything and everyone is sacred; including that which and those whom I personally do not understand (perhaps especially so.)
However, though I do not understand those who hate other groups, I do not tolerate hate speech of any kind in my home, including here on my blog or on my facebook page. I prefer to learn and grow with and from everyone... except those who want to destroy others purely because they hold different beliefs.
Live and let live. Or take it somewhere else.
Very respectfully
Ruby -
Shameful Pride!
Its almost been a year since I last wrote on my blog. I know I like to give myself hogwash and say "I don't have the time for that type of thing" when in reality it was my lack of interest! So In my attempt to get back to writing, I sat on my porch, watching the rain sipping on some bitter hot chocolate - ( that's another story, another day) and suddenly I found myself missing Austin and the life I had there.... some thoughts made me smile and some made me sad, but most of all they are all good memories that I can go back to anytime... I was always known for doing some really crazy things :) So here's one for you...
Have you ever experienced the feeling of shameful pride?
I first felt this emotional phenomenon in the presence of my great friend. A friend of mine came to visit me in Austin, where I'd been studying design and teaching at the ACC with great ardor. We went to an Italian restaurant down 4th street. As I recall both the meal and service were quite excellent. Upon exiting the restaurant we were startled to find that an Eve 6 concert had sprung up during our meal. Neither of us had much appreciation for Eve 6. In fact, we rather hated them. Still, we were happy to see them live. My friend summed up the experience as "the first time I've ever felt shameful pride."
Later that night I got hungry. Wanting a nosh I drove to Taco Bell at 3:30 in the AM, ordering a Burrito and a Bacon Flavored Quesadilla. The guy behind the counter asked if I wanted any sauce. My reply was something to the effect that I'm too lazy to open sauce packets. He jokingly offered to open the sauces for me. I agreed.
"Are you serious?"
"If it's not too much trouble. I'm sorry. I just can't pass this up."
He opened three sauce packets and handed them to me. I tried to read the labels and dropped one. I gave him a helpless look. He reciprocated with a decidedly not-so-merry laugh. I paused to emphasize my seriousness. He opened another packet, placing it in my palm.
"Don't drop this one." Why? He would've given me another. I drove home, hoping to brag to my friends whenever I next met them. I pride myself on a library of bizarre human experiences that I share in moments of bliss hoping my friends will nod before reveling in the World's Weirdness....but that silly feeling of pride lasts until I remember that I am a mother, and that I am Woman that's way too classy for this! - Having said that - in my opinion, its ok to let some of this madness surface every once in a while!
The Taco Bell Packet Fiasco is a classic strange experience but falls short due to lack of innocence by those involved. Though proud of the packets I felt like a real douche as well.( See that's what I was talking about! I feel bad) On one hand I felt cool and cocky in a Ferris Bueller sort of way. On the other hand, I made a minimum-wage employee of Taco Bell open my sauce packets for me in exchange for a smile and a bit of playing dumb. It was outwardly manipulative and rude. The sort of thing a person shouldn't be proud of. The sort of thing Dan Lawlor lives for (he makes this a beautiful art form...just ask The Wacko).
I still thought it was cool.
Shameful pride.
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