F--k Love!

Some of the worse decisions we make in life are based on being in love, or more specifically, falling in love. When I ask women who have been in abusive relationships why they stayed for years, their response is always, "Because I was in love."

When I ask men why they go into debt for thousands of dollars...to impress women they've only been dating for two months they say, "I was in love."...

Parents put their children in dangerous situations everyday because they are so "In Love" they ignore the signs that their partners are molesting their child. And what about the millions of fools who rush off every year to get married to someone they haven't known for 6 months! Why, because they are in freakin' love!

I had a buddy in the Air force who's girlfriend was pregnant, he was excited about being a father, and at the time so was I. But after doing the math I realized she delivered the baby almost two months late. He was deployed 3 months after her last  visit to the base, but that fool was so caught up he couldn't count past 9 months.

Yes, that love drug is some serious s***t, it's addictive, it's blinding, and it's hard to reason with anyone who's under it's spell. And the more you criticize the person who is "In Love" about their bad choices, the more "In Love" they seem to fall. It's scary when you think about how "Ir-responsive" love can make you!

So, yes, F--k love, f--k falling in love, and f--k the idea of putting love first! And what that means is, Love should never be the deciding factor in making life altering decisions, whether it's marriage, living together, sharing money, having children, having unprotected sex, or opening yourself up emotionally.

Besides, the longest lasting relationships don't begin with "Love", they begin with getting to know that person, spending time together, having common values and interest. It's about having differences and talking things out to build even closer bounds.

Those relationships are called, "FRIENDSHIPS" and how many of you fall in love with your friends? No, you grow to love them, and that's healthier than falling in love.

So, the next time someone even thinks about making a critical decision based on infatuation or love, tell them I said, F---k that!

My 2 cents on relationships

I originally wanted to post two sentences on this and call it a brief passing thought. But how little do I know about myself

 

They say “Opposites attract”. It makes sense at some abstract level, but it also raises this question of how people can sustain relationships when they are different. From a common-sense point of view, compatibility also rests on a shared ground of similarity. It seems, compatibility requires some delicate balance between differences and similarities. I recently stumbled upon a small realization about this elusive balance.

From observations, interactions and experience, I think couples in successful relationships have certain core personality traits that are completely different. Differences in personality traits seem to work. These opposites attract and seem to sustain.

However, there are also similarities, and these are in the shared ideologies. Couples who share similar ideologies and belief systems are obviously more compatible. I think someone with liberal views and someone with hardcore conservative views are going to be battling each other for several decisions and ways of living. A difficult relationship.

Here’s why I think different personality traits work to the relationship’s advantage. People who are very similar in terms of their personality struggle to get through tough spots - even in day to day living. When the going is good, things are great. But when something happens that weighs down a certain personality type, both people get affected and struggle to move forward. For example, when both people in a relationship are quite sensitive, or prone to anxiety, or are high-strung, their combined anxiety can be disastrous. A balancing personality type would be really beneficial to the individuals and their relationship. On a more philosophical level, such relationships enrich the individuals because they grow and imbibe certain opposite traits for their betterment as the relationship matures. They truly complete and complement each other because they have different things to offer to each other. Taken together, the different  repertoire of characteristic traits come handy while handling life’s varied situations. For example, some situations require sensitivity, while some situations can do with some nonchalance.

The converse - similar personality traits and different ideologies is not going to be helpful. Can you imagine two stubborn personalities with different ways of thinking living under the same roof? I have seen the results ;). But these people at least understand or empathize with each other’s characteristics and motivations.  

At this point in time, I am inclined to rank the combinations thusly:

1. Most successful - different personality, same ideologies
2. Hits rough patches when their personality cannot handle life’s curveballs - same personality, same ideologies
3. Difficult - same personality, different ideologies
4. Unhappy? Disastrous? - different personality, different ideologies

Another crucial factor is perhaps shared interest. It can sometimes be that vital factor that holds a relationship afloat even when other variables aren’t that favorable. But, I do think that interests relate to ideologies, and to some extent get influenced by personality. Interests primarily flow from ideologies, ways of thinking etc., and gets honed by personality. I know people in very successful relationships (different personality, same ideologies) who don’t share any common interests or activities, but they are happy to engage in their separate interests and find a way to collaborate. Time away from each other is precious too. The husband is a man’s man - loves sports, building things, problem-solving. Wife loves cooking, crafting, painting. And they built their house together - from scratch. Husband was the contractor, architect, engineer, builder. Wife was the painter, decorator, planner, provider of nourishment. You would think this example is a pre-feminist stereotype, but people like this exist today as well and they are doing great. As I mentioned earlier, these two people are bringing in many different skill sets to the game and are figuring out a way to use their interests to complement a common goal. Common goals arise from common ways of thinking.  So, I am not including shared interest as a third variable to the matrix. It is more of a “weight” that influences the compatibility score within each category.

However, there is another equilibrium to consider. How similar should the similarities be and how different should the differences be to balance two people? What are the threshold values? Is there an optimum ratio of similarities : differences. This is when compatibility becomes unique and subjective to each couple! I kind of understand where astrology is coming from. They start with similar theories, but they ruthlessly pattern-match, extrapolate, and predict without accounting for the range of uniqueness that we humans manifest. We are too unique to be boxed in. When there are two people involved, it becomes even more of a unique situation. A parallel thought - maybe that’s why polygamy is simply impractical and too complicated for most (in addition to the other hairy reasons).

That’s my brain dump for now.

When will I find my soulmate

I was watching a show this morning on television where people called in to find out about their future. The host was a lady with psychic powers who also had Tarot cards.

The most common question that people called for was to know how, when and where they will meet their soulmate and more specifically their romantic life partner.

Really!!!  the best advice I can give is to stop searching, stop looking and stop seeking your soulmate because when the soul is ready the soulmate will appear. When your soul is really ready to have a soulmate relationship, in the form of a romantic life partner, and the lessons for personal growth and expansion that go with that karmic relationship, the door is opened for that partner to come into your life.

The best way to meet your romantic life partner is to work on yourself. When you work on yourself, either through meditation, personal growth studies, therapy and counseling, self-help books, personal growth seminars or studies, lectures, going to school or anything else that causes your soul to expand and grow, you are aligning your soul with the Divine source. When you are growing and evolving spiritually, as well as intellectually and emotionally, you are creating the space for your romantic life partner to enter. If your life is cluttered an eight-hour work week, too many social obligations, too much gym time or volunteer work you are sending the message out to the heavens that you are just too busy to work on yourself. When you are too busy to grow and evolve, your life is too hectic for spiritual growth and you just don’t have the time for anyone new in your life, much less a romantic life partner to begin a soulmate relationship. De-clutter, de-stress, and focus on yourself and become whole. You cannot manifest a soulmate romantic relationship if you are incomplete, or need someone to complete you, because you will need to be solidly grounded within your being to work with the challenges a soulmate romantic relationship can bring into your life.

Regardless of what a lot of people may believe about soulmates from Hollywood and romance novels, soulmate relationships are here to teach us about life and love. More than likely unconditional love as well as patience are two of the greatest life lessons soulmate relationships teach us. And these lessons are never easy. We may think that we are patient and able to love unconditionally, but the challenges a romantic soulmate relationship can bring will take these experiences to a new level. More than likely, after the initial period of romantic bliss and happiness, the relationship will fall apart for one reason or another. It is during those periods of disconnect from the relationship, after being so immersed in the strong karmic connection, that the growth happens. This disconnect can happen because an ex comes back into the picture, one of you gets transferred to another city, someone’s has an ill family member who needs constant care or any of many various scenarios that can cause a break in the relationship. For one, if not both of you, some of those trials and tribulations will be difficult. If a soulmate relationship is to teach you about unconditional love, they have to be. By the end of it, you might feel like you are dying without that romantic soulmate connection. Please remember the true nature of a soulmate romantic relationship is about change, transformation and becoming a better person and the evolution of your soul.

25 RULES FOR MOTHERS OF DAUGHTERS

 1. Paint her nails. Then let her scratch it off and dirty them up. Teach her to care about her appearance, and then quickly remind her that living and having fun is most important.

2. Let her put on your ...makeup, even if it means bright-red-smudged lips and streaked-blue eyes. Let her experiment in her attempts to be like you…then let her be herself.

3. Let her be wild. She may want to stay home and read books on the couch, or she may want to hop on the back of a motorcycle-gasp. She may be a homebody or a traveler. She may fall in love with the wrong boy, or meet mr. right at age 5. Try to remember that you were her age once. Everyone makes mistakes, let her make her own.

4. Be present. Be there for her at her Kindergarten performances, her dance recitals, her soccer games…her everyday-little-moments. When she looks through the crowds of people, she will be looking for your smile and pride. Show it to her as often as possible.

5. Encourage her to try on your shoes and play dress-up. If she would rather wear her brother’s superman cape with high heals, allow it. If she wants to wear a tutu or dinosaur costume to the grocery store, why stop her? She needs to decide who she is and be confident in her decision.

6. Teach her to be independent. Show her by example that woman can be strong. Find and follow your own passions. Search for outlets of expression and enjoyment for yourself- not just your husband or children. Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what others expect you to be. Know who you are as a person, and help your daughter find out who she is.

7. Pick flowers with her. Put them in her hair. There is nothing more beautiful than a girl and a flower.

8. Let her get messy. Get messy with her, no matter how much it makes you cringe inside. Splash in the puddles, throw snowballs, make mud pies, finger paint the walls: just let it happen. The most wonderful of memories are often the messy ones.

9. Give her good role models- you being one of them. Introduce her to successful woman- friends, co-workers, doctors, astronauts, or authors. Read to her about influential woman- Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie. Read her the words of inspirational woman- Jane Austen, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson. She should know that anything is possible.

10. Show her affection. Daughters will mimic the compassion of their mother. “I love yous” and Eskimo kisses go a long way.

11. Hold her hand. Whether she is 3 years-old in the parking lot or sixteen years old in the mall, hold on to her always- this will teach her to be confident in herself and proud of her family.

12. Believe in her. It is the moments that she does not believe in herself that she will need you to believe enough for both of you. Whether it is a spelling test in the first grade, a big game or recital, a first date, or the first day of college…remind her of the independent and capable woman you have taught her to be.

13. Tell her how beautiful she is. Whether it is her first day of Kindergarten, immediately after a soccer game where she is grass-stained and sweaty, or her wedding day. She needs your reminders. She needs your pride. She needs your reassurance. She is only human.

14. Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.

15. Make forts with boxes and blankets. Help her to find magic in the ordinary, to imagine, to create and to believe in fairy tales. Someday she will make her 5 by 5 dorm-room her home with magic touches and inspiration. And she will fall in love with a boy and believe him to be Prince Charming.

16. Read to her. Read her Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle. But also remember the power of Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost. Show her the beauty of words on a page and let her see you enjoy them. Words can be simply written and simply spoken, yet can harvest so much meaning. Help her to find their meaning.

17. Teach her how to love- with passion and kisses. Love her passionately. Love her father passionately and her siblings passionately. Express your love. Show her how to love with no restraint. Let her get her heart broken and try again. Let her cry, and gush, giggle and scream. She will love like you love or hate like you hate. So, choose love for both you and her.

18. Encourage her to dance and sing. Dance and sing with her- even if it sounds or looks horrible. Let her wiggle to nursery rhymes. Let her dance on her daddy's feet and spin in your arms. Then later, let her blast noise and headbang in her bedroom with her door shut if she wants. Or karaoke to Tom Petty in the living room if she would rather. Introduce her to the classics- like The Beatles- and listen to her latest favorite- like Taylor Swift. Share the magic of music together, it will bring you closer- or at least create a soundtrack to your life together.

19. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let her tell you about boys, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. She is not only your daughter, you are not only her mother. Be her friend too.

20. Teach her manners. Because sometimes you have to be her mother, not just her friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

21. Teach her when to stand-up and when to walk away. Whether she has classmates who tease her because of her glasses, or a boyfriend who tells her she is too fat - let her know she does not have to listen. Make sure she knows how to demand respect - she is worthy of it. It does not mean she has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence. Also make sure she knows which battles are worth fighting. Remind her that some people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help her to understand when to shut her mouth and walk-away. Teach her to be the better person.

22. Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words; she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.

23. Mother her. Being a mother - to her - is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with her the joys of motherhood, so one day she will want to be a mother too. Remind her over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love her like you love her. No one can replace or replicate a mother's love for their children.

24. Comfort her. Because sometimes you just need your mommy. When she is sick, rub her back, make her soup and cover her in blankets - no matter how old she is. Someday, if she is giving birth to her own child, push her hair out of her face, encourage her, and tell her how beautiful she is. These are the moments she will remember you for. And someday when her husband rubs her back in attempt to comfort her...she may just whisper, "I need my mommy."

25. Be home. When she is sick with a cold or broken heart, she will come to you; welcome her. When she is engaged or pregnant, she will run to you to share her news; embrace her. When she is lost or confused, she will search for you; find her. When she needs advice on boys, schools, friends or an outfit; tell her. She is your daughter and will always need a safe harbor - where she can turn a key to see comforting eyes and a familiar smile; be home.

Facebook - Should I quit it or not?

 

The "social media" which is supposed to connect us is also a catalyst for distilling previously hidden differences which will push us apart.  I know people who insist on spewing their pet causes and political ideals all over the news feed, and I have "unfriended" several over things they insist on inflicting on everyone they know. 

Once upon a time there were rules for polite company, and not discussing politics or religion played a large part in them.  Now everybody knows what (almost) everybody thinks about pretty-much EVERYTHING, all the time, and familiarity does indeed breed contempt.  "Social Media" encourages a great deal of what I consider to be anti-social behaviour, specifically ad hominem attacks.  I will go after peoples' IDEAS, but not them personally; if I feel that negatively about the person I won't waste my time or effort on them.

Of course what happens when people know who you are pales in comparison to what happens when people can be anonymous. More importantly, I never say anything here that I would not say in person to whoever I'm talking about, violent idiots excepted; I'd rather deal with them through a rifle scope or the business end of a cosh.

My point?  I couldn't deal with 600 real friends, I see no point in aspiring to have that many cyber acquaintances.  How many of your Facebook "friends" would help you move?  Show up to a BBQ? It's now like people have anywhere up to thousands of pen-pals, except that you are sharing your life in 140 characters or so at a time.  What do we really know about the personalities of these people?  Knowing their taste in cat videos is not the same as knowing their hopes and dreams or having those "you-had-to-be-there" in-joke memories from the stupid things you've done together.

Facebook is a tool, and like all tools it can be misused and hurt people.  The anti-bullying efforts that are being made today are being stymied if not outright thwarted by the fact that if people are hassling you, it doesn't end at school.  Even if you try to avoid them online, once those parasites have their sights on you they will spread horrible shit about you via whatever social media is trendy at the time.  My personal solution for bullying is to meet it with superior force or at the very least surprise and violence to make them think twice about messing with you, but the sort of kids who get bullied are picked on because they are incapable of standing up for or organizing amoungst themselves.

The title refers to a Kipling poem about cutting through bullshit and identifying basic truths:

As I pass through my incarnations in every age and race, I make my proper prostrations to the Gods of the Market Place.
Peering through reverent fingers I watch them flourish and fall,
And the Gods of the Copybook Headings, I notice, outlast them all.

We were living in trees when they met us. They showed us each in turn
That Water would certainly wet us, as Fire would certainly burn:
But we found them lacking in Uplift, Vision and Breadth of Mind,
So we left them to teach the Gorillas while we followed the March of Mankind.

We moved as the Spirit listed. They never altered their pace,
Being neither cloud nor wind-borne like the Gods of the Market Place,
But they always caught up with our progress, and presently word would come
That a tribe had been wiped off its icefield, or the lights had gone out in Rome.

With the Hopes that our World is built on they were utterly out of touch,
They denied that the Moon was Stilton; they denied she was even Dutch;
They denied that Wishes were Horses; they denied that a Pig had Wings;
So we worshipped the Gods of the Market Who promised these beautiful things.

When the Cambrian measures were forming, They promised perpetual peace.
They swore, if we gave them our weapons, that the wars of the tribes would cease.
But when we disarmed They sold us and delivered us bound to our foe,
And the Gods of the Copybook Headings said: "Stick to the Devil you know."

On the first Feminian Sandstones we were promised the Fuller Life
(Which started by loving our neighbour and ended by loving his wife)
Till our women had no more children and the men lost reason and faith,
And the Gods of the Copybook Headings said: "The Wages of Sin is Death."

In the Carboniferous Epoch we were promised abundance for all,
By robbing selected Peter to pay for collective Paul;
But, though we had plenty of money, there was nothing our money could buy,
And the Gods of the Copybook Headings said: "If you don't work you die."

Then the Gods of the Market tumbled, and their smooth-tongued wizards withdrew
And the hearts of the meanest were humbled and began to believe it was true
That All is not Gold that Glitters, and Two and Two make Four
And the Gods of the Copybook Headings limped up to explain it once more.

As it will be in the future, it was at the birth of Man
There are only four things certain since Social Progress began.
That the Dog returns to his Vomit and the Sow returns to her Mire,
And the burnt Fool's bandaged finger goes wabbling back to the Fire;

And that after this is accomplished, and the brave new world begins
When all men are paid for existing and no man must pay for his sins,
As surely as Water will wet us, as surely as Fire will burn,
The Gods of the Copybook Headings with terror and slaughter return!

One look around the world indicates that our part of it at the very least is trying entirely too hard to ignore objective reality in favour of what we'd LIKE to see. 

NOTE TO SELF!

 

For just a while, calm your thoughts. In this moment, simply be....

There is much in your life, and there is much more to come.
Yet you have always been, and you always are, more than enough.

For a moment, let go of the way you appear and the things you’ve done.
Feel the truth and power of who you are.

In silence, there is much you can know.
Beyond thought, there is much you can understand.

Touch the person who always lives inside the person you are.
Be immersed in the beauty and wonder of being.

Feel the strength that is always there.
And know that whatever may come, all is well.

— Ralph Marston.

Life, love and more.....

did you ever notice the way a stranger's smile can turn your bad day around?
how much sweeter reunions are, the longer you've been apart.
how much you appreciate warm weather in the winter, and cool weather in the summer.
how great it feels to relax after a week of going non-stop.

life is weird like that.  but in the same way, life is beautiful like that. 

and I think it is the same for Love.
the more you hold Love in, the less Loved you feel.
the more you let yourself Love, the more Love you experience.
the more you Love, the harder you sometimes fall.
but most importantly...

the harder you fall for the wrong Love, the more you open yourself up for the right Love.

and when you fall for the right one, you are forever held by the wings of Love, never allowing you to fall again.

More ranting from a lonely soul...

Usually, this is where I makeup some pathetic excuse as to why I haven't blogged in so long. But not today. In fact, If the good Lord hadn't beckoned for another rambling, you all would still be waiting. What can I say, I feel uninspired. Nothing has really grabbed me, screaming, "wake up" like I would love it to.
Last night we did a tribute to my best friend Santhosh. I don't understand why, neither  will I ever understand why he was taken so early.40 ain't no age to take an indefinite vacation to the land of no return. I miss him. He was a real fun guy, put everyone before himself. But I knew his hurt, his bad hurtful past, and I have come to the conclusion that he was taken so he can hurt no more. Body soul and mind! Everybody only knew the funny, always smiling and ever-so helpful Santhosh. I knew more. He was my crazy friend, I may not have a single picture with him but I have memories that will last a life time.

On a different note.. I love being apart of a book club ....(My book club is pretty much me and my 500 odd books but I usually go online and read & post reviews ) It has been a lot of fun reading different stuff and talking about it. Honestly, it keeps me sane. Loneliness is an unrelenting bitch that shackles you to her cold bed posts while she has her way with you, and you scream for her to stop, for some relief, but it is usually hard to find....dang I sound like a freakin guy!  I did also see Chennai Express. It was awesome. The story is good, the music is great. If you haven't seen it, it's good, clean comedy - a laugh riot, I recommend it. Good stuff!!!

I don't know what to do with myself. I find myself constantly wrestling with my own thoughts, my opinions, my beliefs, my disbeliefs. Sometimes, I even lose sleep over it. I'm glad I can talk to my friends about things and it truly does help to hear their support and their thoughts. I guess I would just like a break every once in a while. I try to be a person that cares about others but it's hard when you feel like such a colossal fuck-up. I hope that I am more of a blessing than a burden to those I run across. And if I fail you, I truly am sorry. I remember thinking when I was a child that life would get easier when I got older. But the truth is, it is just life. It doesn't get easier or harder, it just is. It's a series of experiences and choices and you learn as you go and realize that it has always been difficult and yet here you are, somehow, miraculously. At least, that's how I see it. Maybe that's why I like the movie "Curious case of Benjamin Button" so much. Time is neutral. It doesn't shift favor when it starts or passes by. Whether old to young or young to old, it is the experiences and choices that meet us along the way that shape us and effect us more deeply than anything else. It is also interesting how I am writing a hell of a lot more than I had expected to when I started. Kinda funny. Do me a favor. Go outside and smell the air. I love the smell of November cant really call it Fall in this part of the world. So crisp and clean. Reminds me of childhood. I sooooo wish you can visit an authentic Irish Pub and get yourself a pint of true, slow-poured Guinness out of the tap. It just might bring your life a little extra joy. I think that's good for now.

Here I go again....

Awww yes. You know you have made a raging comeback into the blogging arena when the only title that seems to fit is a White Snake song!!! I should just stop there. But I won't. So yes, it has been a horrendously long time since my last post. I apologize. I must have slunk away into the shadows to be alone with myself which, oddly enough, is where I feel most comfortable. And the most depressed. But I decided to surface once again and write even though I don't feel like it. No check that, I didn't decide at all. The Son of God, himself, called me out to write again. What was I gonna do? I couldn't deny the Savior!! But I have a feeling with such high expectations thrown on top of me, I will yet again retreat into the silences never to be heard from again. Until, that is, someone offers me their liquor. I can never turn down good booze. Especially when someone else has paid for it. Anyway, life continues on, always at the same pace, always leaving me behind to figure things out and try to catch up, only to be left behind again. It's a bitch, what can I say!! But I never want to give up hope. After all, it is just that that has carried me thus far. I just hope that people won't be completely scared off by my "less than enthusiastic" outlook. But hey, If Jesus is still interested, I can't be that insane, right? It's funny, I heard a comedian say that when your single, all you see is couples. It's so true. They're everywhere, mocking me with their cute glances they steal of one another, their little inside conversations they have that only lead to making out right in front of you. Those are so fucking annoying. And the most annoying part is how you can't stand it, but all the while you wish it were you. But that's life. With it's many stages, your bound to not keep up with all of them... or none of them. It's odd though. As frustrating and annoying it is being around couples, it always makes me reflective. For whatever reason, it always puts a song and an abstract, nostalgic thought in my head. And although temporary, I feel a strange beauty, a calming come over me. Craig Finn, of the Hold Steady, has this lyric that says, "I see Jesus in the clumsiness of young and awkward lovers". I think he's right. There is an innocence, a purity that seems to shine through in couples, especially the odd ones who no one seems to get, but it doesn't matter because they get each other. I think I'm done. I am only 1 cup of coffee awake and coherent thoughts are hard to come by. Later. And by later, I hope I mean sooner than 3 months from now. But we'll see how that goes. On second thoughts I might come back to rant a lil later. I can see myself doing this when my best friend moves back to the US at the end of the year. She has been away for a freaking week and my world seems to have come to an end.. my other best friend went to be with Jesus and the only other I want to talk to doesn't even want to talk to me anymore....
So I say screw it all , drink more coffee and rant away!
P.S. I love how intelligent I look when I am ranting away on my blog, everyone around seems to think that I am seriously working on something very important.... Hell yeah! I am important!

Peace!

Just ranting away...

This gone week has been so difficult, I lost my best friend to Brain Cancer, my girlfriend is travelling with her parents and the one man who I would like to talk to does not want to talk to me anymore.. So I have risen from the grave to write again. I am sitting in a coffee shop, wishing I could come up with some groundbreaking, existential topic that would be so fitting for such a venue. But, alas, my mind is barely functioning enough to remember my damn password to get into this blog.

I am on the hunt for a house. There have been nothing but strike outs so far, but it is a miracle I can even search for something in the first place, so how could I not be patient? I can't wait to get my own place, though. I am a little worried though that my expectations will once again surely let me down. I sometimes can look at these type of situations in a "Holy" light, thinking that once this happens, life will start to make sense, the stars will align, and I will begin my journey towards perpetual bliss with my new found freedom. I know it will be awesome and I can't wait to experience it, but I also know in the back of my mind that my often depressive state of mind will not go away. In fact, it may stand to increase with the inevitable loneliness that awaits on the horizon.

You might say I'm just being a winy bitch who is always looking for reasons to sulk and moan and eventually write another song about how everything is meaningless except for love, which there always seems to be a shortage of. But I'm simply pointing out my weaknesses. I don't know why I hold each new high as some kind of euphoria that will bring my universe into balance. It never does and although nice and sometimes momentarily fulfilling, I dread the inevitable pain of a monotonous life that never flows but drags like a master who drags his slaves by chain to the fields.

I was talking to my friend, last night and we were discussing the concept of being a slave to our own devices, under it's control, without power to suppress it. I was reluctant at first to agree with this perspective, but the more I think about it, the more I realize its true. Maybe because I've seen it play out in my own life time and time again. No matter how the circumstances change, even if for the better, my discontent is waiting just around the corner to capsize me and there is nothing I can do about it.

Life is a double-edged sword. It is both bitter and sweet. It is a blessing and a curse. To me, if hell exists, the only thing separating it from this life is eternity. At least here, we know it will end and we can have hope that just maybe, there is something bigger waiting for us that will not flicker and die, but gives us joy that lasts and transcends our endless numbered days. I hope this finds you well. At least for a little while.


 

The Willow!

yes I wanted to lead you by the hand
under the wispy droop of the willow down by the lake
I wanted you to follow me with your deep brown eyes
and smile at the brashness of it all
yes I wanted to kiss you under that willow
and make you wonder why others call it weeping
and fall asleep under stars we cannot see
for the forest of that tree
yes I wanted there to be…a you, and a me
hidden ‘neath the wispy willows
of that old weeping willow tree...

Healed hurt!

She pulled the scabs of the cuts
ripped them clean
opened the wounds afresh
hell bent on continuing the pain
reliving the hurt
feeling her loneliness....
if she ever left them alone
her cuts would scar
if she were lucky
her cuts would scar
some pain.. some hurt
causes things worse than scars
scars are nothing but healed hurt
she wasn’t that lucky
she’d never scar
she knew that with all her broken heart!!!

Woman up!

The other day I watched a taping of Sharon Stone on The Queen Latifah Show, and she brought up an interesting point. She spoke about the idea of how our culture cultivates desperate women. This rang so true for me for we all have suffered at the hands of desperation, especially in our relationships with men.

Many of us have been taught to believe that how people treat us is a direct reflection of our self-worth so we become desperate about our looks, desperate about whether he is being faithful, we become desperate about being good enough.

My journey towards "womaning up" has taught me that how someone treats you is a direct reflection of who THEY are and that I have to be responsible in feeling good about myself in order to create good feeling experiences.

Once I took on this responsibility for myself, I no longer carried the weight of desperation in needing to be good enough

It's time to woman up and be rid of desperation with knowing that being good enough gives us the power to stand alone and to also choose wisely the people we decide to love, without the influence of desperation.

What do you do if you have an unsupportive, unloving family?

Sometimes we are born into families who can't and don't know how to love us. This is when we have to build the families that we desire, either with others biologically, or to go into the world and make ourselves known to others who need a loving, supportive family like us and who would appreciate and enjoy building a famili...al tie that is nourishing and fulfilling. Like this blog...I wanted to build a community, a type of family where we could express, build and heal together. There is not a day I don't look forward to hearing from all the various family members I have found here, from my elders, my sisters and brothers, to my youthful nieces and nephews. Just never forget that you are lovable and there are people waiting to love you. Find them...they're waiting for the daughter, the son, the sister, brother, mother, father, aunt, uncle, grandmother or grandfather they never had. Build a clan where you can build love, share love, and be...loved.

You are lovable.

What do I do with heartbreak?

In my experience, heartbreaks have been the most devastating moments in my life. But... each heartbreak delivered me into something new and better. The trick had always been to find what I needed to learn about myself or the circumstance that I had participated in creating that brought me so much pain. First...I had to learn to surrender to the pain and ...suffer through it instead of running right into another relationship where I would tend to fall right back into the same pattern of my previous heartbreak. It took a lot of maturity and courage to choose to suffer through the loss, but I realized that the quality of my relationships were not going to change if I was not going to be willing to... change. Yes... heartbreak is an indicator that we have to change something so we can love and be loved how we truly desire.

Heartbreak can be a gift if we are willing to do the work to find it.

If any of you are suffering heartbreak while reading this...I am hugging you. Give it time

Loads of Love

R

Is true love real?

 I believe true love is very real. The question is, are we prepared to CREATE it? Most of us are conditioned to believe that true love HAPPENS to us...effortlessly. My experience has been that romantic love happens effortlessly. The meeting of the eyes that lights you afire inside can happen without our consent, which could be the ENTRY point to true love or to a g...rand love affair that prepares you for the true love waiting in the wings. Many of us have equated that intoxicating, romantic feeling to true love. But true love is not created only in the intoxicating romance. True love is mostly created in the troubles, storms, misunderstandings, and deceptions where love is no longer romantic but excruciating. Love is created in forgiveness and in the maturity of accepting the human nature of ourselves and our partner. If you can survive these stages through your fight and growth for love...then TRUE LOVE will reveal itself because it becomes the stuff that CREATES long lasting...true love.

Remember this... When we engage in the dance of love...we are all dancing blindly. We are ALL students of love, learning ON one another. Be patient with the inevitable pains our ignorance delivers.

Mu humble thoughts!
 

You will fall in love...

You will fall in love with someone who annoys you, whose orgasm face looks and feels pathetic. Despite all of this, there’s something keeping you drawn to them, something that makes you want to protect them from the harsh world. What you fail to realize, however, is that you are the harsh world. You aren’t their noble protector — you are someone to be protected from but it takes a lot of dates, a lot of nights where you question whether or not you are actually a good person, for this to ever resonate with you. When it’s over and whatever love is left is put back in the fridge like a sad plate of leftovers, you will finally understand that you have the power to hurt someone. You can either hurt them or love them and it’s up to you to decide what kind of role you would like to take on in future relationships. What feels more comfortable — being the one who loves more or being the one who’s loved less?

You will fall in love with someone who’s cold and always seemingly pushing you away. When all is said and done, they will be forever known as the one person you couldn’t get to love you. Unfortunately, it will hurt and sting worse than the good ones, the ones that chopped up your meat for you and picked out an eyelash from your eye and were nice to your mother, because love often feels like a game we need to win. And when we lose, when we realize we couldn’t get what we ultimately desired from a person, it makes us feel like a failure and erases all the memories of those who loved us in the past. It’s a permanent smudge on your love resume.

You will fall in love with someone for one night and one night only. They’ll come to you when you need them and be gone in the morning when you don’t. At first, this will make you feel empty and you’ll try to convince yourself that you could’ve loved this person for longer than a night, but you can’t. Some people are just meant to make cameo appearances, some are destined to be a pithy footnote. That’s okay though. Not every person we love has to stick around. Sometimes it’s better to leave while you’re still ahead. Sometimes it’s better to leave before you get unloved.

You will fall in love with the old couple down the street because to you they represent the impossible: a stable, long-lasting love. You’re trying to get someone to like you for more than ten minutes. A monogamous “never get sick of ya” love seems unfathomable. “What’s your secret, sir? Do you just say yes a lot?”

You will fall in love with smells, the good and the bad kind. You will want to wear your lovers shirt because it makes you feel close to them and you’re okay with being that PSYCHO who is legitimately sniffing their shirt in public. You will fall in love with sweat, certain perfumes, the smell of the season in which you fell in love. This particular love smells like fall. It smells like Halloween and a roaring fire and leaves and fog and mist and candy and food and family and whiskey and sex and the lint that collects on sweaters. When it ends, if it ends, you will never experience another fall without thinking of him, her, it. The memories will stick to the ground like a mound of leaves and will only dissipate when the weather drops.

You will fall in love with your friends. Deep, passionate love. You will create a second family with them, a kind of tribe that makes you feel less vulnerable. Sometimes our families can’t love us all the time. Sometimes we’re born into families who don’t know how to love us properly. They do as much as they can but the rest is up to our friends. They can love you all the time, without judgment. At least the good ones can.

This is where I’m supposed to tell you that you will fall in love with The One, a person who isn’t too cold or too nice. Their “O” face is perfectly fine and they’re not afraid to show how much they love you. This person is supposed to wait for us at the end of the thirty something road as some kind of reward for all the heartache and loneliness. We deserve them. We’ve earned this kind of love.

So fine. You’re going to fall in love with The One. You’re going to fall in love with someone who will make sense beyond college or a job or a particular season. They’ll make sense forever and won’t ever want to leave you behind. I’m telling you this not because it’s true but because it NEEDS to be true. Everyone is entitled to this kind of love, so why not? Have it. It’s yours. Blow out the candles on your 40th birthday, holding their hand, and let out an exhale that’s been waiting for ten years. Do it. Now…

 

Rules to self, you can make them yours too...

1. Do not kill yourself. Killing yourself is very messy and your mother will cry over you. It is not beautiful or brave, and even if it was, you will not be around to see that.

2. Washing your hair is going to be a chore. But you should do it anyway. Because you will feel better about yourself.

3. Get up late. Have a lay in. Sleep past your alarm. You have a very long life ahead of you and for now you should appreciate the cold side of your pillow.

4. He is going to break your heart but he’s just another male human who finds it hard to deal with Mondays, too. So in a month you’ll wake up and you won’t even remember that little scar on his knuckle you kissed.

5. Don’t spend hours looking up what your name means on google. Your name is your name and you should go out there and do heroic and good deeds and give your name your own meaning.

6. Don’t fight your demons. Your demons are here to teach you lessons. Sit down with your demons and have a drink and a chat and learn their names and talk about the burns on their fingers and scratches on their ankles. Some of them are very nice.

7. Music is good for your soul. Rap music will energize you and boost your ego and pop music will cheer you up. Indie music will make you think and emotional songs will make you cry and think about that boy again. It’s healthy.

8. Victim complexes are not attractive. Boys and girls will not date you because you are sad. They are not going to date you and kiss your aching bones and cure you of your dragging depression. Wake up. Take a bath. Do your hair. Be attractive.

9. Sadness is not poetic. Depression is not beautiful. Laying in bed all day and eating too much is lazy and disgusting and it is not tragic or pretty. Get up. Go outside. Let the sun warm your bones. Live.

10. If it makes you happy, buy twenty of it. Dedicate your life to it. Print it on tv shirts and collect things and draw art of it. Do not care what people think. They are the unhappy people you need to avoid. The abuse they will hurl at you is painless compared to how sad they are. Pity them. Remain happy.

11. You are allowed to be angry. But the world is not working against you. The flowers do not bloom for you and when your mother shouts ask her if she is okay instead of thinking she hates you. She never will. The world walks beside you and is silent. It does not trip you up or carry you.

12. Day and night cycles are natural. Humans only sleep at night because we used to avoid predators in the dark because of our poor eyesight. Stay awake until 5am watching bad reality shows. Wake up at 7pm and have breakfast.

13. Eat when you are hungry. Being bored does not constitute a chocolate bar. Sleep with you are tired. Do not mindlessly obey the sleep at night rule. If you are not tired, do not sleep.

If I gave you my....

If I give you my love,
Be aware that it is fierce.
It is stronger than an ox,
More ferocious than a river,
And with the loyalty of the moon.

If I give you my body,
Be aware that it is fragile.
It breaks if you beat it.
It withers if you deny it.
And it glows if you shine it.

If I give you my mind,
Be aware that it bites
With teeth of daggers
And a sword for a tongue
And doesn’t let go.

If I give you my soul,
Be aware that it is dark.
It is coated with dust
And buried in a cave,
But it will shine if you uncover it.

The best compliment!

When asked about the best compliment they have ever received, most people would respond with “beautiful” or “sexy” or “attractive.” My question is- why? Why do we, as a species that prides itself on its intelligence and superiority, consider our appearance to be so crucial to our self-esteem?

When asked about the best compliment they have ever received, most people would respond with “beautiful” or “sexy” or “attractive.” My question is- why? Why do we, as a species that prides itself on its intelligence and superiority, consider our appearance to be so crucial to our self-esteem?

As a woman, as a teacher at the American School, as Sunday school teacher as mother of a teenaged girl (who accompanies her everywhere ) I am privy to this phenomenon on a regular basis. I notice fellow teens in the hallways exclaiming over attractive members of the opposite sex or how good they look that day. I hear students using the phrase “well, at least you look hot” to comfort one another. I see girls wearing scandalous outfits and flaunting their bodies for the enjoyment of men. And I wonder- why?

Why do we worry so much more about how someone perceives our outsides instead of how they perceive our insides?
I have a friend who is incredibly intelligent. He’s sweet and friendly and loving. And yet, he has extremely low self-esteem because of his appearance. Because people look at his clothing and hair and slight chubbiness and criticize him for it. Here is this amazing young man who lacks confidence just because he is not as attractive as some. When he confides this to me, I am angry. It frustrates me that he does not see the same thing I see, which is the beauty of his heart and mind.

I, myself, am considered to be attractive by some. For so long I have struggled with this, not knowing if I believed it or not. Eventually, I wondered why I cared so much. I have good friends who do not care about my looks. My significant other does not care about my looks. And my teachers and bosses definitely do not care about my looks. In fact, the only people who do care about my looks are the people who I would never associate with anyways.
So why should I care?

Since this discovery, I have decided to focus on the aspects of myself that I would be proud to associate with myself, like intelligence, integrity, empathy, and strength. What I have noticed is that I am happier, less insecure, and generally more confident than I ever have been before.

With this in mind, I implore the current generation of parents, teachers, and role models to teach this to students. Instead of always saying, “oh, you’re so beautiful,” use words like smart, fun, happy, sweet, and other accolades that appeal to the personality of a student instead of just their appearance. If we teach the upcoming generation this, and they pass it on to the next and so on and so forth, we could potentially lower the amount of teenagers with self-esteem problems and create humans that strive to be better people instead of better-looking people.

Maybe then the richest people in the world would be humanitarians, scientists, teachers, and ordinary beings, instead of the beautiful people of Hollywood

No more my Lawd!

As part of my research into the African Slave history, I found this piece of music that I remember listening to in Liberia at one of the timber concessions I once had.

Between years 1933-1959 Alan Lomax recorded black inmates singing on chaingang. There is a theory about these songs and calls that they were sung by the first slaves while they were working and in the prisons these songs continued living after slavery (Black man in a prison at the time was much the same as a slave) From these songs blues is believed to be formed and this is probably the reason why blues was called "devil's music" like rock-n-roll later was.


No more, My Lord
Sung by Jimpson with men chopping trees.

Chorus:
No more, my Lord,
no more, my Lord,
Lord, i'll never turn back no more.

i found in him a resting place,
and he have made me glad (chorus)

Jesus, the man i am looking for,
can you tell me where he's gone?
(chip strikes microphone)

Go down, go down, among flower yard,
And perhaps you may find him there.

 

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The Ultimate Guide To Understanding A Man's Commitment - How to marry him and stay married!

This one is for all of my girlfriends... Those not married and those who are. It hurts that I know so many women who don't know how to treat their man....

 #1. Do what he asks you to do, without question -

If a man asks you for a favor, and you question him and say “why”…he will instantly feel like you just don’t want to do it. If you have to ask him why, it sounds like you need him to CONVINCE you to do it. If he has to convince you to do things, do ...you really understand him?

#2. Maintain yourself -

Men are visual, which means if you let yourself go, he will lose interest. He doesn’t want to commit to a woman who is only going to get worse. Maintain yourself physically and health wise, to prove you are willing to be the best you can be for him.

#3. Trust him -

Don’t be scared that he’s going to run off with some other woman, or that he’s lying to you about everything.

 #4. Regularly give him space - Every guy wants time alone. We all need our personal space, and it’s better if you can give that to him without him having to ask for it or beg you. Do it naturally, and he will appreciate you and think you are marriage material.

#5. Be there for him, even if he says nothing about the problem -

Show you are supportive of him, by BEING there; WITHOUT questioning him on the problem.

#6. Be financially dependent -

It can help a man to know that you aren’t going to take every last penny he has. Some men fear marriage, because they are afraid of losing all of their money (in a divorce, or even just because of a wife’s spending).

#7. Compliment him

#8. Learn his insecurities -

It’s not something people walk around talking about, but sometimes a man hints that he is insecure about something, so that you can avoid the topic or avoid hurting him in the future.

#9. Don’t act out toward your man -

If he says something that hurts your feelings, or if he does something you disagree with…most women’s first reactions would be to become dramatic and emotional and nag the guy. Don’t do this…because it tells him that you are a nightmare to marry, because instead of remaining calm and allowing him some room to improve, you are just lashing out at him.

#10. Accept responsibility in a fight -

Every relationship has its moments where they are disagreements and fights. The difference between a healthy relationship that encourages a man to marry you, and an unhealthy marriage that pushes a man away is this: blame or responsibility.

 #11. Learn to take a joke…even if its personal

 

#12. Learn to take criticism - Men criticize to see improvement, and they do it in order to try to help you see things in a different light. They also criticize to try and show you a solution or a better way to do something, if they see you are struggling. This is why you should learn how to take criticism, because if you freak out every time he criticizes you, you tell him that you won’t be able to improve in the future. (We are talking constructive criticism not the ones that will put you down)

#13. Be serious where it’s necessary - There’s nothing more discouraging, or annoying to a man, than a woman who does not take SERIOUS issues seriously. A serious issue is something that he considers to be important, and if you can’t take it seriously, he thinks that you don’t take HIM or yourself seriously.

 #14. Keep your promises

 #15. Don’t use excuses

#16. Be COMFORTABLE around him

- He wants to grab your love handles, and suddenly you are pulling away, asking him if he thinks you’re fat. You also become insecure when he wants to make love to you. Or you just struggle to open up to him. All of these things tell him that you are not comfortable around him, make him feel insecure, and make him QUESTION the point of marrying you.

#17. Show love with ACTION - Sure, you said you love him; but words only get you so far. He wants to see you SHOWING it with your actions.

 

 #18. Don’t be afraid to draw the lines

 #19. Show appreciation

#20. Encourage him to succeed daily

#21. Take his problem solving advice

#22. Be calm when he is stressed - When a man is stressed it can be a HUGE problem, because he acts out of character, is unpredictable, may lash out at you, and may withdraw. BUT, instead of blaming him and arguing, just be calm and let the storm pass. He needs to know that you UNDERSTAND him in that area, and doesn’t need a woman who makes it all about “herself” when he has something stressful going on.

 #23. Use the things he gives you 

 #24. Do FOR him before you ask OF him

#25. Disagree without disappointment

- There will be differences, BUT the main issue is how you HANDLE the differences between each other. If you handle disagreements by arguing and becoming disappointed when you don’t take his side, you are showing him that you are emotionally immature. But, if you disagree without feeling disappointed, you show him that you can respect his opinion, even if you don’t think its right for you.

 #26. Ask when you don’t know -

If you’re afraid to ask him something, how will he ever feel like he can truly communicate to you? Not only this, but if you never ask him the things you are curious about, you’ll often end up looking for answers on your own, which leads to assumptions.

#27. Don’t pressure him

#28. Respect him -

If he has boundaries, don’t cross them. If he values privacy in certain areas, observe it. If there is something you dislike about him, don’t go complaining to your family and girlfriends about it, behind his back. There are many examples, but the main point is that you RESPECT him, so that he can feel valued, appreciated, and upheld.

 #29. MAINTAIN his interest - Marriage is a LONG-term relationship, which means that you will consciously have to make efforts to keep his interest. You won’t be able to keep his interest if he knows EVERYTHING about you, and nothing changes. This is why it’s important to learn new things, new skills, and to create a life outside the relationship so that you have things to keep and spark his interest.

#30. Learn from your mistakes 

#31. Understand your emotions

#32. Evaluate yourself regularly

- A guy doesn’t always want to have to point out everything that you’re doing wrong, or your flaws, or mistakes…because you are completely oblivious to them and have to ask him what’s wrong. Evaluate yourself regularly to ensure you are improving and are moving forward internally and externally.

#33. Show him that you can let things go 

#34. Prove you are committed

– Stay with him mentally, physically, and intimately no matter what.

#35. Listen to him as much as possible
He wants to be able to talk to you about anything that’s on his mind.

#36. Be able to be alone and quiet with him
 

#37. Let him know your expectations
 

#38. Challenge him
He wants someone who can challenge him in all kinds of ways, such as challenging him to change or be better, challenging him to keep your interest etc… This keeps him glued to you, instead of having him interested in other women.

#39. Be sexually pleasing - Sex can become pretty boring, especially if you always do the same things over and over…which is a HUGE problem, because intimacy is important in a long-term relationship. Ask him what his fantasies are, learn new tricks in bed, and ultimately surprise and encourage him there, so that he feels like you’re someone who he could stay with and marry…because you don’t disappoint him in the bedroom.

#40. Divide your time elsewhere
 

#41. Be honest
Remember that honesty is accepted, and even if it hurts its temporary…but lies are REJECTED, and is permanent pain, because they take away his trust in you.

#42. Trust him with your personal things
 

#43. Accept him

#44. Surprise him
The element of surprise in a relationship keeps him interested and gives him a reason to stick around for the long run, because it shows that you still have lots left to offer that he doesn’t even know about.
 

#45. Be spontaneous
 

#46. Make him laugh
As the saying goes “laughter is the best medicine” and it most definitely is an attractive trait for a “wife”.

#47. Be romantic

#48. Place importance above your-self where necessary - Relationships are about TWO people, not one…which is why it can’t always be about you.

#49. Know your role

#50. Let him know that he fulfills you NOW - Men worry about whether or not they will be able to support you, keep you happy, sustain interest etc… which is why they avoid marriage and avoid the commitment topic. If you want him to marry you, let him know that everything he is doing RIGHT NOW, is exactly what is necessary to sustain you in the future, so that he sees he is truly fulfilling and pleasing you…and stops worrying about being unable to, because he’d see he already is ABLE.

 

After having said all of this, there are some men out there who still wouldn't care and do the things they do...then you know exactly what to do, MOVE ON!

I don't work for Money, I work towards achieving my dreams and goals

Yesterday someone was asking if I or someone else would be able to create a program on how to become a financial success. I answered that I cannot provide a "get rich" scheme any more than I can catch the same handful of water in a river; money passes like a fluid that... carries you from the mouth of the river, by milestones and landmarks, to its end.

I was once homeless (Oh yes homeless) surfing couches and starving cause my pride wouldn't let me take handouts of food. I had found me a new job, and one evening when my friend and I were just hanging out , in order to keep a conversation going I asked how I could become wealthy. He replied, "What are you going to do with the first paycheck from your new job?" I answered, "Pay my bills." He continued, "And the paychecks following?" Rent a flat or house, a car and a computer, I replied. He asked why. I answered, "So I can get a better job." He asked why again. Puzzled, I responded, "To give my Anushka a good education, fulfill my goals, and achieve my dreams."

He inquired as to my dreams, and I replied, "To help others prevent the hardships I've endured, or hasten their way through them with greater ease and less suffering."

He said, "That can be the RIGHT question! Don't ask how you can become rich. Ask what you will be doing with your wealth! Formulate your goals and then pursue those big dreams step by incremental step."

I can share with you how I achieve goals, but I can't charge you money for it. From my perspective, the more successful you become, the better off we all will be.

There are three ways I have taken my friend's advice on how to accomplish new goals:
1. Through experience - the most bitter. I learnt the hard way. The courage to dive into the breach will take you far, but I won't lie that it doesn't come without a toll.
2. By imitation - the simplest. Studying at the feet of great teachers provided me with the fastest acceleration toward my pursuits. Deepest bow to my teachers for enduring my endless questions.
3. With forethought - the most noble. Trusting in my own intuition, imagination and intelligence has allowed me to offer unique expressions of the experiences I've had and lessons I've learned.

When I prepare for a new goal, I download my ideas to paper to organize my plan, check my strategy against how others in the field have accomplished similar goals, and then evaluate my performance against the experiences I have once I have received feedback from the current step.

But money hasn't been a goal for me; money is only a means to realize my goals. As Jim Carrey offered, "I wish everybody could get rich and famous, so they realize it is not the answer."

Money only acts as a form of energy, like a prism, to help others achieve their goals. It couldn't make me happy. Every new medal I won, award I received or paycheck I banked, held lackluster fool's gold when I expected it to make me happy. These things don't have happiness; they only hold potential energy to help with the next goal.

So as my friend suggested, what big dreams do you want to accomplish with the wealth you acquire? You may not have any idea how to achieve those goals yet, but you can find others who have, or you can repeatedly, through trial and error, figure out how to do it anyway. Success is inevitable when you have courage and conviction. Albert Einstein supposed, "The person with big dreams is more powerful than the one with all the facts."

If your dreams don't scare you, they're not big enough. Do big frightening things with your life and at least one small thing that scares you everyday; the wealth will arrive as it needs to facilitate your goals. Wealth will come and go, like a river flowing. Make your real goal to sail smoothly, carry as many passengers as you can and teach others how to sail happily along on our short trip together.

Only In India - So Proud to be Indian - Now Go die laughing!

1. Welcome, leadies and jents!

 

2. Gents, you may wash your hands here.

 

3. How about a quick launch?

 

4. I’d like mine without cheese, thanks.

                      

5. Chaineeeeeeeese takeout?

 

6. Moms makes the best moms.

 

7. EVERYTHING IS SO TESTY! YUM!

 

8. Past food is the best food!

 

9. Beep steak, medium rare.

 

10. Mmm, free cock.

 

11. Or maybe something stronger.

 

12. Nothing, NOTHING like a child bear to wash it all down.

 

13. For all you health freaks.

 

14. Room for dessert?

 

15. Sshhh.

 

16. Foot in the mouth.

 

17. These guys will taste anything. ANYTHING.

 

18. Full Body Masaz.

 

19. Cut your child here.

 

20. Get your eybro perched.

 

21. Be careful. Naked people ahead.

 

22. Be very careful.

 

23. Who doesn’t like to sleep on these?

 

24. SHOOES!

 

25. Apostrophes, people, apostrophes.

 

26. Can’t afford tuition?

 

27. CONGRATIONS, YOU PASSED!

 

28. Have yourself a nonmetallic, chemical new year!

 

29. Amen!